Tuesday, October 27, 2020

Composite Veneers : Pls Read Before Getting Them! (Singapore Edition)

 Hello my beautiful people. Hope everyone is doing well. Have you ever thought about getting the 'perfect smile' ? Then I am sure you would know this technique called Veneers. Essentially there are two types of veneers that you can choose: Composite Veneer and Porcelain Veneer. Trust me I thought I did all my research and really I did. I was planning to go Vietnam for crowning to fix my 4 upper front tooth but due to the pandemic, this plan was postponed. I also know that i would only go for porcelain veneer because I know that composite veneer is not natural-looking. I had consulted many doctors last year.

BUT...... I didn't know what got into my brain that day. Here is my story: 


I was swiping my IG stories one morning and saw my friend's advertisement on veneers. She did her veneers at Royal Smile and she is very happy with her results. Curiously I clicked into Royal Smile's IG page and i was impressed with their before and after. The price was also very affordable at only SGD1,188 for full set (top 8 teeth, bottom 8 teeth). 

I only remember that excitement washed my brain and i immediately booked an appointment for my veneers treatment that same day! Yeah, very impulsive? I think i just lost my brain that day. I did not ask if its porcelain or composite. I did not about the material used. I did not ask if i can choose shades. Basically, I just booked and went for it. 

At the back of my mind somehow, i kept thinking that it would be porcelain veneer. Seriously i really didn't know what happen to my brain that day. 

Anyway, i reached the place. It is not an actual clinic. They were located in an office building. There was only 1 lady in the office and she was the one who did my veneers. Can i also add that she was smoking a bit in the room? Yeap she did. Basically I was pretty shock at the whole environment. However my whole mind was just to get this done and i would have the nice smile. 

I lied down on the bed and she began her work. It took only 2.5hours to finish the whole set. As i mentioned i kept thinking that it would be porcelain veneer so at the back of my mind, i was wondering where is that piece of small porcelain that she's gonna stick onto my teeth? 

I do find myself very stupid here because WHY DIDN'T I REMEMBER THAT YOUR TEETH WOULD NEED TO BE SHAVED OFF A LITTLE IF YOU ARE DOING PORCELAIN VENEER!? 

There wasn't much of a Q&A before the treatment anyway. Everything went by super fast. You enter the room, you sign a form, you lie down, treatment begins. 

2.5 hours later... I looked myself into the mirror and i got a shock of my life period. 

MY 2 FRONT TEETH LOOKED SO BULKY SUDDENLY. They look very thick and much bigger than my actual teeth. The whole set of teeth looked thick and unnatural. It looks like a denture LITERALLY. 

I asked the lady if she can thin my veneer even more and she said this kind of veneer is like this. She did, however, try to reshape my two front tooth. I was really bothered at just how big my teeth were looking. 

She said i need some time to get used to this. I was like OK.... I will just wait a few days. 

Honestly in photos and videos, my teeth look OK. But in real life, oh man.... i'm not even joking it really does look like i got a denture. My sister even joked that I look like halloween vampire with those fake teeth. 


VERY HUGE TWO FRONT TEETH... Everything just look much bigger and thicker. 

Ok so i cut the story short. On the next day, I knew i won't be able to get used to it and i wanted it removed. I don't feel like myself at all. 

Unfortunately Royal Smile does not provide removal service. I voiced out my opinion to them and asked if they could do a 50% refund. After several back & forth, they finally agreed to refund me 30%. I honestly think this is very fair and they have been very kind to try and help me fix my dissatisfaction. 


CONS OF COMPOSITE VENEERS
(PLEASE THINK TWICE!) 


1. Unnatural - because the composite is added on your existing tooth without any shaving of your tooth, your teeth will definitely look much thicker than before. 

2. Materials used - please check with your doctor the materials they use to glue and the composite itself. I watched on youtube that composite veneer has components of plastic material in it, with BPA. Can you imagine yourself eating harmful material everyday? 

3. Food get stuck easier - There are food stuck in-between my teeth much more than before. This could be due to the workmanship - how well they shape your teeth. 

4. It is not PERFECT SMILE - composite veneers go with your natural teeth shape. There is only so much they can do to reshape your teeth with this method. 

5. Get stain easily - I drank coffee and ate some dark colored food. You can immediately see the color change in your teeth. Your teeth gap also becomes darker. 

6. Removal Cost - Please check for removal cost. Touch wood if you don't like your composite veneer, can it be removed free of charge? The cost of my full set 16 teeth removal cost SGD1,500  ($90 per tooth) in the clinic that im going to go for. THIS IS EVEN MORE EXPENSIVE THAN PUTTING IT ON! 


However, I have to be fair and also stated some pros in composite veneer. My friend really like her new teeth with composite veneer. There are also really satisfied customers. 

PROS OF COMPOSITE VENEERS 


1. Non-invasive - This is the least invasive smile treatment. Basically you will have your original teeth back if you remove the composite carefully. There is no shaving off the surface of your original teeth like porcelain veneer. 

That is all I CAN'T THINK OF ANYTHING MORE PROs. lol. 



So yes I will be going to get them remove this weekend. Very unfortunately and stupidly, this is how I wasted 2.7K. I could literally buy an iphone 12 pro with this money. 

I urge everyone to think twice before getting composite veneer done. I take this as a heavy lesson for myself. 

One more photo before i go. It doesn't look bad through photos / videos but it looks unnatural in real life. I really miss my old teeth. lol.






Thanks for reading. Think twice!!! 

xx 

 

Thursday, September 17, 2020

CHANEL Hydra Beauty Micro Liquid Essence | HONEST REVIEW

Hello my beautiful people! Today I am going to introduce one new product that I have been using and loving so far! My skin is always dehydrated and it is a must for me to make sure my skin is well hydrated 24/7. Recently I discovered Chanel's Hydra Beauty Micro Liquid Essence and i must say - I'M REALLY LOVING IT.




Retail at SGD146 



The whole Hydra Beauty collection from Chanel focuses on hydration benefit. The hydrating and energising liquid essence with camellia micro-droplets. The formula offers the strength of an essence and the texture of fresh water. I usually do not like to apply products with fragrance ingredients on my face because my skin is quite sensitive. However, I am pretty amazed that this product works well on my skin and i absolutely love the scent! It also gives me a deep hydration boost that my skin needs. The texture is watery and the micro-droplets will 'melt' into your skin when apply. 

In general I have nothing bad to say about this product. And for this, I am going to give it a 8.5/10. The remaining marks are mainly because of the fragrance (would love it to be fragrance free) and the price. It's on a slightly steep pricing compared to other essence in the market. 

Hope this review helps and highly recommend to try it out! 

xx





Saturday, August 15, 2020

Most Honest Review | VITAL PROTEINS COLLAGEN PEPTIDES

 



Hello my beautiful people! The last time I did a collagen supplement review was years back and it was one of the most read posts on my blog. So here i am now trying out this rather well-known product - COLLAGEN PEPTIDES by VITAL PROTEINS 

I have seen a lot of youtubers sharing about this product. There was a sale on iherb one day I decided to order and give it a try! 

First of all this supplement is not cheap at all. I bought the 10oz for SGD38. It lasted me about one month solid. They have many different flavours and personally I would like to order the matcha one BUT it costed more than the original flavour... 

I add this powder into my daily smoothie and also coffee. It is very versatile. I also like the fact that it doesn't change the taste of my drink. The unflavored version is really tasteless, there is no awkward scent. 

Now comes the fun part -> DOES IT REALLY WORK ON MY SKIN? 

To be honest, I don't see any significance difference on my skin. But I also cannot discount the fact that I only consumed it for a month and it is really difficult to tell the results. You have to keep consuming it for at least 3 months to see any difference. However on the account balance sheet, I wouldn't spend SGD40 (including shipping) every month for this. Its a little bit expensive in my opinion. Moreover i would think the matcha powder would have more benefits than the original flavour since matcha is a great anti-oxidant ingredient to for our body. 

So! Here is my verdict :

It is a great product to try. I believe in the long run you will do see some improvement in your body (hair, skin, nails) but that would mean you need to spend about SGD40 a month to keep it up. And I think there are other products out there that can help me achieve the same results and at a lower cost. 

Not sure what you guys feel about this product? Feel free to share your reviews in the comments section below! 

xx 

Thursday, August 13, 2020

SUPER EASY BURNT CHEESECAKE RECIPE

Hi my beautiful people! I have been experimenting with cheesecake baking recently. Trying to perfect the easy cheesecake recipe. Finally, i was able to find the perfect recipe (playing with the ingredients around) and i am so happy to share with you guys! 

WELCOME TO KACEY'S HUMBLE KITCHEN. MINI RECIPE.  :) 



Ingredients: 

2 blocks of cream cheese (cold) 
1 packet of whipping cream (cold)
150g evaporated cane sugar 
20g cake flour 
3 eggs 
Vanilla Extract (to your liking)

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I have a tendency to not allow exactly what a recipe says and cook based on my gut feel. And I think the perks of cooking is really to enjoy the process instead of focusing on exactly how much ingredient you need. So, do not worry if your cake flour is not 20g. It can be 18g,19g,21g. It doesn't matter as long as the main ingredient is there - YOUR CREAM CHEESE. 

STEPS: 


Make sure your whipping cream IS VERY COLD before whipping. This will allow the whipping cream to be whipped easily. Set aside the whipped cream in the fridge. 

Now we proceed to beating the cream cheese aka adding all other ingredients in bit by bit. 



I did not bother to sift the flour. Just make sure all ingredients are mixed smoothly. BUT BE CAUTION NOT TO OVER MIX IT. The texture of the mixture should be very creamy when its done - not liquid. 

Pour in mixture into a 8inch pan. Depending on your oven, i bake them for 28mins at 200 Degree Celsius. Your cheesecake should be jiggly in the middle when its done. If it doesn't jiggle, it means you over-bake them :) . 



Let it cool and fridge it for 3-5 hours. The cake will settle and READY TO INDULGE!

Viola~~~ Happy Baking

xx 

Saturday, June 13, 2020

Consultation at Shens Clinic for Fats Grafting Breast Surgery

Hello beautiful people! This is kind of random but i thought it would be interesting to share a bit of my consultation experience with Dr Shen at Shens Clinic for my fats grafting breast surgery. 

A few weeks ago i was hit by a sudden thought (and mainly might be due to covid stay home period) - wouldn't it be nice to have a breast surgery now since i am technically working from home? It only seems convenient to do it now than later. I have been thinking about the 'what if my boobs is slightly bigger' thought for a while. I'm not looking for a full C cup and the ideal size would be a full B for me. Definitely not a greedy person. 

And i found out that you could actually transfer your own fats to your boobs via your thighs / tummy / love handle fats! I didn't want a silicon inside my body so implants is out of my option. 

I did some research on which are the best clinics in Singapore. I did think about going to Korea but my main objective is to have it done while i still have the luxury to work from home so flying overseas is out. 

I found out through articles and forums that Shens Clinic seems to be very popular and yeah I called them and booked for a consultation with Dr Shen. The consultation fee is *ah hem* SGD 160.50 . 

The waiting time wasn't very long. The nurse took my blood pressure and took some photos of my boobs before the consultation. When i lifted up my sleeve for her to take my blood pressure, she gave me a very casual remark "wah you so skinny don't seem like a right candidate for fats transfer you know..." my heart sank (literally). haha. Then she said the doctor will give me advice later to see if i'm suitable for this surgery or not. 

Met with Dr Shen. He showed me pictures of the before and after, explained to me where he got the fats from and where he inserted into the patient. He also told me that he makes very small incision to do liposuction. It is done very close to your pubic hair area so you can't see the scar if you wear a bikini. 

I prepared a list of questions to ask him and before i could proceed with these questions, it was only right for him to look at my body to see if i even have any extra fats in the first place. 

He took a good look at my body, squeezed my thigh 'fats' and tummy 'fats' and told me "You only have these little fats"... We were both trying to hold off our laughter lol. Then i told him my upper thigh is quite big aren't those fats? He said those are muscles and not really fats. And he taught me the difference between seeing fats and muscles. They are different. 

So all in all, I am not a suitable candidate for fats grafting breast surgery because I do not have enough fats. 

But I want to make full use of this consultation (SGD 160 man...) so I still asked him some questions regarding breast surgery and below is what he answered (not exactly the same words by words but the meaning is there): 

1. Will my boobs still be able to bounce with fats transfer / implantation? I heard the boobs cannot bounce with silicon implantation. It only feels natural to touch but cannot bounce. Is this true? And with fats transfer, since it is natural fats, then can it bounce? 

Ans: Both types of surgery will make your boobs bounce. If it doesn't bounce, it is probably the type of silicon  / surgeon's problem. 


2. I tend to have more stubborn fats on my thighs than on my tummy. My tummy fats can go away very quickly if i lose weight but not my thigh fats (my thigh fats are harder to get rid off), then would it mean that transferring my thigh fats has better chance of fats survival in the surgery? Since technically, these fats are more stubborn. 

Ans: Normally we get the fats from a patient's tummy or love handles and it doesn't matter which part of the fats they are all the same. 

*Pause here* I was listening to this answer and honestly i don't quite believe it because i've watched somewhere on youtube via an American plastic surgeon that fats have memory and where you get the fats from can also impact the survival rate in the fats grafting purpose. So personally i believe that getting fats from a more stubborn area than any area seems more understandable. 

3. If i don't have enough fats now, what about coming back to do after giving birth? Since technically, i would probably gain some weight

Ans: Some people have very high metabolism and you can lose weight fast after pregnancy. If you have those extra fats, then yes come and consult. 

4. But these are only temporary fats right? Would that mean these fats will likely be gone in my breast after fats grafting? 

Ans: Well for here he said something about maintaining the diet you have and the type of exercises you do. If you have heavy exercise / very lean diet and with the type of metabolism you have, then you can lose weight fast and chances are your breast will also lose those fats.

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Anyway, guess what? I totally forgot to ask him for a quotation. lol. But from what the nurse told me, a fats grafting costs 14K and an implantation costs 17K. I guess it also depends on how much fats / what size silicon you wanna get. 

So here are all my sharing! I hope this little piece of information has been helpful and all the best to you if you are considering to get one done. 

xx 

Sunday, June 7, 2020

RIGEL PARLOUR HAIR SALON (SINGAPORE) | DO NOT GO!! | HONEST REVIEW

Hello my beautiful people, its me again and I am back with another honest review! You know by now that i love to share my honest opinions whenever I try something new or have something exciting to talk about. Today, I want to give my honest opinion on Rigel Parlour Hair Salon. They are located at Bugis Cube. 

I booked an appointment for hair dye, hair perm and hair cut. Initially I was concern if i can do perm and dye at the same time because it sounds very damaging to my hair. I consulted the in-charge regarding my concern and he said I could add in Keratin Treatment to protect my hair and I would be able to do perm and dye at the same time. In addition, he emphasised that they are trained from Korea and the products they use are all Korea technology. 

I totally give him my trust and let him handle my perm and color. I showed him the kind of curl i would like to achieve (picture below): 



And he said this is Korean Wave Perm. He would give me this effect. OK. Korean Wave Perm it is! He went ahead to perm my hair after my Keratin Treatment. 

Perming my hair 

The duration of the perm took 30minutes? Honestly its been 8 years since i do permanent curl on my hair so i'm not really sure of the technology now and he told me the process of perming is much faster than 8 years ago. 

He moved on to color my hair afterwards. I totally trust him with his color suggestion and agreed to getting a green undertone hair color. Normally I go for brown because it compliments my skin the most but he said this greenish color would give me a WOW effect. 

Washed my hair and starting blow dry. I was really eager to see the final result but as the person continued to blow dry, my mind started getting a lot of question marks. I honestly don't see much curls. The hair dresser also kept twirling my hair so that it stays curled. Honestly, if the perm is perfect, you wouldn't need to keep twirling. 

When my hair was done, I looked at myself in the mirror and I was just..... " W T F " in my mind because I really couldn't see a proper curl. And i know for sure my hair would go straight just two weeks time. I have naturally very straight and fine hair which i also share to the in-charged and he ensure me that their 'KOREAN TECHNOLOGY' will make it last for more than 3 months. 

I told him the perm is not obvious at all and it looks rather ugly and asked him 'so how?'. He told me to give it one week and see. I was already very unhappy with the result. If they had not charge me with the perming cost, i would just take it and see them as being professional. 

I spent a total of SGD254. It includes: Keratin Treatment + Dye + Perm + Free Cut. FYI the free cut was just a few snips and that's it. 

MY HAIR ON DAY 1: 






For God's sake my curls don't even look like a curl on Day 1. It just looks as normal as it is. Not to mention also I actually don't really like the hair color. Its just not my style. But partially me to blame because I saw the color sample and i agreed to it, trusting the hair dresser's taste. 

And so i've wasted SGD 250 on a shitty treatment like this. My hair still looks frizzy even after Keratin Treatment. 

If you have been following me for a very long time, you would know the last time I did a bad review was years back on Apujeong Salon (which I have not visited since). You can read it here

I'm regretting this so much I think its still the safest to stick back with Pro Trim at Jem. I have been doing my hair cuts with them since the bad experience with Apujeong and Pro Trim never disappoints. In addition, my friend Teddy is working as a hairstylist in that outlet and his hair cut is amazing. My friend did her hair perming with him and it lasted her for more than 8 months. 

Now i have to suck my thumb and wait patiently for two months before i can re-dye my hair. Honestly at this exact moment while writing this, my hair is basically 'straight' and frizzy. Also, my scalp is feeling itchy and i have a slight burning sensation at some parts of my scalp now. 

I wanted to share their IG profile with you all here as well and i just realised they have blocked me on IG !!! WHAT........? This is very unprofessional. No compensation and not even an apology. This is very unethical.  



I have been blocked and this is very unprofessional. SUCH A SHAME!!! 

Please do not engage in their services. They were so confident with their treatment and technologies and training background and yet they can't handle a negative review with professionalism. I have give you my warning. 

That is all for my honest review today and hopefully the next time when i do another honest review, it would be something that is exciting and happy. 

Till then... xx 



Tuesday, May 19, 2020

LOCKDOWN IN SINGAPORE MONTH 2

It has been so long since i blogged! Hello my beautiful people I hope everyone is maintaining their sanity during this Circuit Break / Lockdown / Quarantine. This pandemic has harshly affected many of us for sure. I cannot wait till the end of the lockdown so i can dye + trim my hair, have my facial treatment and Brazilian IPL. I also want to try lip blushing. #essential #firstworldproblem 

Since we are spending everyday at home now, we have so much time to cook / bake. I also spend a lot of time making tiktoks which i really enjoy. I miss my friends and i miss hanging out at bars and dining at restaurants. I miss everyone's laughters and i miss hugging my friends. This lockdown has definitely make us realise the small things that we took for granted for. On the bright side i really enjoy working from home. I think the best combination would be to continue working from home but with the bars and restaurant reopen. Ideal? :) 

How are you spending your lockdown? 

Below are some lifestyle photos I took this month (mainly food and all homecook!). 


Cooked fried rice

Baked burnt out cheesecake

The sunset was beautiful 


The reflection

The purple pink hue sunset 










This would really be the best time for me to decorate my room which Im still half ass-ing on. Its taking ages! lol. I'm trying to find meaningful photos to frame them up and hang on the wall. Also looking for a comfy one seater couch. Sadly i'm not feeling it now. Nothing caught my eye. 

Ok i will stop here. 

xx 

Saturday, February 15, 2020

Job Interview Questions/Preparation for You

Hello my beautiful people, i hope you spent a wonderful Valentines' Day yesterday and for those singles - Happy Single Awareness Day! ❤️ 

The last time I wrote about Job Interview questions was nearly 3 years ago! You can read it here (Finding a Job in Singapore). I thought it would be good to have an update on this since so much has changed after i gotten my first job.

Summary of my work life: I got a promotion, i resigned, i looked for jobs again.

In this post, besides sharing my job interview experience, i also want to share with you on quick views about working life/being an adult since this is very related to the kind of jobs you would look for.

INTERVIEW QUESTIONS ASKED: 

Because by now you would probably have some years of work experience, the type of questions your hiring manager ask u is very different. Its no longer so much on "Why do you want to work in this company?" or "Tell me more about yourself". I have received some very different questions asked. They asked you based on your skill set.

To be clear, I work in a marketing field, so questions asked can be different if you work in other fields. Please feel free to comment down below your past job interview questions! We would love to know! 

- Between ur previous company & this company, what do you think is the difference?
- What do you think is the direction of this brand?
- How do you feel about this brand?
- Based on the market now, what product do you think work for customer?
- I also received some situational questions "Based on this chart, where would you run the campaigns?'
"You are given this data, what do you think is the trend now?"
- What do you think is important in this role?
- Tell me how relevant you think your past job experience is to this position u r applying?
- Tell me more about your past job experience
- What do you think you can still learn from in this new role given that you alr have experienced in this kind of work?
- Do you understand what this role is about?


These are the questions I've came across. It was a lot of situational questions and i think what the hiring manager wants to see is your reaction and how fast you think. There is no right or wrong answer, but if you happen to say something that your hiring manager also agrees then its a bonus brownie point for you.

Since my last update on job interview, I had gone to a total of 7 interviews and got an offer from 5 with the 2 failed rejected by my own previous company which took a toll on me then. I will leave this story for another time.

My advice to you when searching for a job is : look carefully at the job description & prospect of company before you apply. You do not want to burn so many bridges.

I've also learned that there is no ultimate career path you would 100% go because anything can change. Don't take it too hard on yourself. So that is why I hate it when employers ask me "What do you see yourself in 5 years time".

I also learned not to jump into a 'yes' too quickly but to consider the other factors that you may be missing. Also, be daring enough to say 'no' when you need to because you don't live for them, you live for yourself. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own actions.

If you are a student now or a graduate looking for a job, don't be afraid to explore. Just because everyone else seem like they have a direction to go doesn't make you the odd one here. You know what i see about life that makes it 'life' are all the wrong turns you make - in that you make a wrong turn, you fall, you get up and try again, you fall, you get up and try again.

With this i will end my post here. See you guys soon!


xx

Wednesday, February 12, 2020

LA MER THE CLEANSING GEL | HONEST REVIEW


Its been such a long time since i did an honest review. I really love writing this section on my blog. Always your most honest reviewer. 

La Mer is a luxury skincare brand in the beauty market. The price of their products easily retails from SGD100-600. The main ingredient in all of their products is the miracle broth - a fermented process of sea kelp known for speedy renewing of skin & healing properties. 

Here on my hand now is their Cleansing Gel 200ml, retails at SGD190. And as you can see, it is already empty. I pretty much use everything until the last bit. 

DOES IT WORK? DID MY SKIN TEXTURE IMPROVE?

Honestly, I want to be really real here. If you are thinking of just using this product for some magic to happen on your skin then it is not going to happen. My skin texture feels the same. Nothing much has really improved or did i see any significant change on my skin. 

The texture of this cleanser is soapy. It will slowly lathers on your skin which is good. I use a Foreo to cleanse my face. You can get a pretty good cleanse on your face with this product if you have no makeup on. If you have makeup on, it doesn't clean away your makeup effectively. I recommend using a makeup remover as first layer of cleaning before using this cleansing gel. 

My face feels tight after using this which means that the cleanser is not suitable for me. But to be fair, i haven't really found any cleanser that makes me skin feels moist after using. So give or take but i have to almost immediately slap on some lotion & moisturizer to hydrate my skin. 

Packaging wise - nice firm plastic bottle. I dropped it several times and still in good shape. lol. The silver coating wears off easily though which is something i won't expect because this is a very luxury brand so should have perfect quality. 

IS THIS WORTH THE MONEY?

To me, absolutely not. SGD 190 can buy me some really good cleansers. This hype is all about their secret ingredient and marketing strategies. But say if you are very wealthy, love to be pampered, then i wouldn't say no to give this a try. After all, it did really cleanse my face well. 


Have you tried using a La Mer product before? Would love to hear about them from you :) . 

Until then, i will see you guys again. 


xx

Friday, January 3, 2020

Lessons you should take after all the breakups | For heart broken people

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE! I hope you had an amazing count down. Although its the new year, i also sense that many might have just ended their relationship, be it long term or short term. Either way sucks.

After several unfruitful relationships, i summon my courage to write this post as it is something really personal but i'm sure many ladies out here could understand it.

Why do we break up from relationship?

I always believe it is at no one's fault should a relationship end. Because each other had a choice, and you choose to be in this relationship. So if it fails, then suck it up. Dreams are fancy, reality is harsh. Has it ever felt like a dream to you? One day you woke up, looked back, and felt like it was a dream. I don't know if any of you feel this but it certainly did to me. If i reflect on my past relationships, it felt like a dream. But every dream has its own lesson to learn.

A few lessons you can take from:

1. What you thought was real was not 
Some of us like to dream. When we thought we meet the right guy (finally), we quickly jump on the love boat. However we were too quick to make rational decisions because, honestly dear, you fell in love with your fantasy. You picture that guy to be perfect and ignore signs that were given to you. Perhaps some time later you then realise he is not the one you are looking for. And now it's difficult to break because both of you had created so much memories. You know what kills? The memories. They haunt. But anyhow, you know you gotta do it. And so you break because he is no longer what you fantasize. Wake up girl.

2. He offered you too much in the beginning, leading to a certain expectation from you
Alright, no blames here. Perhaps the reason you got into this relationship was because of the amazing things he done for you. And so it naturally leads you to form a certain expectation from this guy. Maybe to the guy, this is how he is as his character but to you, you see a different picture. And so when you don't receive the same service from him in the long run, you grew unsure. Does he still love me? Why has the relationship become like this? Perhaps the guys here can take note of this: If you know you can't go on the extra mile for this girl in the long run, then don't even start in the beginning.

3. You just dated a total asshole
Truth is, you never know if this guy is an asshole until days grow old. And i think this may be the only exception that the fault lines in the guy. It can be really difficult to tell. Its like a cunning liar trying to get your feelings and then hurt you because he is simply an asshole. In this case, even if the relationship ends, you have nothing to be sad about. Thank yourself because you just saved your mind, soul and body from harm. And all those memories? There are not even real in the first place. So thank you, NEXT.

4. Both have different values & perceptions in life
Perhaps it was a wonderful start for both of you, totally aligned. But the universe will always lead you to the right path eventually. People change and so are their values and perceptions. Its at nobody's fault. Things just happen. Two people on a different tune now shall find their own destined path. This could be the hardest goodbye in my opinion because it could be the most sincere & pure love at the beginning. Just that as time pass, values deviated. You have to let it go. Keep those memories in your heart and let them be buried with you when your ashes return to nature.


I guess what's most important is that you have to know what you want and be honest to yourself. I understand how some women feel that its important for the men to have money. Everyone has their stories. I read about why its not wrong for a woman to be 'materialistic'. Here is it: The monetary status represents resources and naturally women need as much resources as possible. This is to protect their offspring.

I also recommend you to read the book "5 languages of love". In a nut shell, sometimes we think that our partner doesn't love us but in fact, they love you. The problem is that both of you have a different love language. Go read it! I think its interesting.

And here i shall end this post. If you are in the midst of amending your heart, may i give you my love. Girl, i know its hard. Imagine 10 years later, those tears will be good lesson. Always know that someone is there for you. Don't ever make yourself feel that you are alone. And i know its hard to speak of your feelings. Maybe you are crying on your bed now. Wouldn't be nice to disturb your friends and talk about your feelings right? Never mind if you don't want to share, but know at least someone will always be there for you. Or at least I am here, giving you good energy. Your heart, although will be scarred, but see this as just a moment of pain. This moment could be 1 year, 2 years, 6 months. Universe will guide you eventually. Believe in that leap of faith.

Good Luck ! With lots of love.


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